THE 6 PILLARS OF SELF ESTEEM
The previous article I wrote was a superficial look at dealing with ideas and protecting yourself.
Since writing this article, it seems as if my brain has become a sponge and I’ve found myself seeking out books and ideas and people who are experts on these ideas. One book I just discovered was one called ‘The 6 Pillars of Self Esteem’, by Nathaniel Branden.
The book itself is almost like a ‘guide book,’ but don’t get fooled by that. The common misconception about self help books is that they are don’t provide any real structure to learning and that they are a ‘pill’ to solve issues.
This is not the case.
Like with any big break through, personal or impersonal, your mind can only accept it if it is LOOKING for it. There are ways to train your brain into looking for these things, but that’s something for another post.
I would just like to cover really one major paradigm shift that this book had for myself really. That was simply this:
SELF ACTUALISATION CREATES SELF ESTEEM
This is not an ego-ic thing. Not at all. Learn to kill your ego before it kills you. It was always my own misconception that people who had a crazy high sense of self and purpose always found themselves in a place of power. It may seem silly for me to JUST discover this, but I can clearly only discuss this on a superficial level at a blog post level. The truth is: Being in positions of power CREATES self esteem. This goes with a few things as well. Self actualisation and asserting yourself creates self esteem, and not the other way around.
WHY SHOULD I CARE ABOUT THIS?
Well, first up, understanding how your mind and body works is incredibly important. It allows you to operate at a higher level than before. If you don’t agree with this, then you won’t agree with me in general and should stop reading.
The common idea is that if you express yourself, people will put you down for being outspoken. The common idea is that if you act not in accordance to the norm, people will reign you back in.
The common idea is that if you act not in accordance to the norm, people will reign you back in.
Simply put, if you do have self esteem problems, you can TRUST in your body. By no means is this a quick fix, but the idea does give a quantum of solace. You can TRUST that when you’re thrusted into a position of power, you will naturally adapt. You can TRUST that by asserting yourself and expressing your core purpose you will be accepted.
It is definitely a weird phenomena, but this is definitely something that will help if you do have issues with what self esteem and asserting yourself.
Edit: For those actually interested in a quick summary of what those 6 pillars are, here’s a quick list:
- The Practise of Living Consciously.
- The Practise of Self-Acceptance.
- The Practise of Self-Responsiblity.
- The Practise of Self-Acceptance.
- The Practise of Living Purposefully.
- The Practise of Personal Integrity.
DESIGNING FOR RENT 